Comments on: [cancer] The sexuality of cancer

By: Steve Buchheit

Steve Buchheit — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 14:24:54 +0000

Feel lucky you can find V- for $17. After an exhaustive search I was able to get it locally for $18 (100mg, most other pharmacies were charging $22-25). My insurance refuses to cover any part of it because I don’t have a diagnosis of complete ED. Although for me, I can use the 50mg pills (but only get about 2.5 hours of effect, C- also doesn’t work for me) so I can cut the 100mg in half (with a pill cutter). That makes it only $9 per boner.

My doctor and I hope that by the time I drop another 50 pounds I won’t need them. And then the boners will be for free. I could practically give them away.

By: Meran

Meran — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 08:42:11 +0000

I’ve found that our reasons for having sex changes over the decades… It starts out as acceptance by someone else, becomes more for excitement even recognition… Each person’s order of those steps as above are different… However, it should, by my own lights, be only about love and connection… Which may only mean laying together, naked and helpless, and possibly as innocent as a newborn… You’re feeling vulnerable, of course. Women usually find that sweetly attractive Our health invades all facets of our lives, unfortunately… Count on it: this too shall pass…
Be strong, for tomorrow. We’ll be thinking of you tomorrow, lending you strength!

By: Gerry Huntman

Gerry Huntman — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 05:32:58 +0000

Thanks for being honest and open about it… it is consistent with your approach to blogging. It is also important for us (visitors) to read – as it is educational – we all may face similar challenges and lighting the dark corridors helps us navigate through.

By: Jonathan

Jonathan — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 00:46:04 +0000

Fuck cancer indeed.

By: John Burridge

John Burridge — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 00:13:51 +0000

Sorry to hear about this. If it’s any consolation, Mark and I joked that we should write “The Joy of _Old_ Gay Sex” now while we’re both only middle-aged. [Insert ABBA joke here.]

By: Nick Ruffilo

Nick Ruffilo — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 23:15:21 +0000

I highly recommend that you pick up two books. They take a VERY different approach to sex and sensuality but the underlying spirituality and approach is the same.

Those books are “Barefoot Doctor’s Handbook for Modern Lovers” by Stephen Russel and “The Tao of Sexology” by Stephen Chang.

Surgery is extremely jarring to one’s sexual energies but there are exercises that you can do (Tai Chi, Chi Quong, etc) that will help you recover quicker and regain full functionality. If you are interested I can put you in touch with a network of Taoist healers that I used to work with.

The most important thing is to always have a positive outlook and enjoy life.

-Nick