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[photos] People at play last Sunday

Last Sunday, I told people to go play and take a photo [ | LiveJournal ]. Quite a set of images resulted.

I still haven’t picked my favorites, but they’re too cool not share. Here, reproduced with (I hope) permission from the photographers, are the photos I received. All rights reserved, of course, and images © 2011 by their respective creators.


[photos] Some new LJ userpics

Pulled from my Australia photos. These are free for use with attribution.

Superb fairy wren, at Werribee Open Range Zoo

Kangaroo crossing sign, Great Ocean Road

“Commit No Nuisance” sign from Melbourne laneway

Rose graffito from Melbourne alley

Vintage clothing store sign

Stained glass ceiling, Victoria National Gallery

© 2010, Joseph E. Lake, Jr.

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[personal] Lessons of life

I recently asked, “What have the great trials of your life taught you?” The responses I received ranged from thoughtful to funny to deeply moving. Some were quite personal. I liked them so much I’m reposting from comments to here. If you have a few minutes, enjoy them.

  • annafdd: Compassion does in fact make you happier
  • annafdd: That a lot of pain comes from remembering the past and anticipating the future, and that if you manage to stay in the present moment, no matter how shitty, you actually feel better. (does not work for physical pain)
  • Anonymous: All people are real, even the invisible ones on the other side of the monitor.
  • Anonymous: Don’t leave with anything unsaid except perhaps good-bye.
  • Anonymous: It’s never wrong to be kind.
  • Anonymous: That it would be a really good idea to stop drinking.
  • anton_p_nym: Most recently (ie: yesterday) I learned that if you’re known as the quiet and diligent type, if you do pitch a hissy-fit it gets really noticed. (Perhaps even noticed too much.)
  • barbarienne: That my dad was right. His two favorite quotes were “The essence of life is change” and “this too shall pass.”

    After enough years and enough stuff, I understood those words. Stuff that was horrible and life-changing and so on when it happened is, twenty+ years later, just another bump on the road of life.

    Granted, Dad never faced recurring cancer. I suspect those phrases may ring differently in your situation.

  • Bill: I have learned that my inner voice belongs to a complete and utter bastard. Sort of like a less feelgood C. W. Sughrue.

    I still miss my dad, though.

  • brownkitty: A generous spirit is a valuable thing. People will attempt to use it. They’re not always aware of it. Don’t let any of that stop you.
  • brownkitty: A hug may not fix it. Lack of a hug may well break it beyond repair.
  • brownkitty: Home doesn’t have to be a particular location. It can be a mindset, an environmental factor, a culture, a person, a concept.
  • brownkitty: If you’re keeping score in a relationship, that relationship is in trouble. Because you’re keeping score now doesn’t mean you’ll be keeping score next year, next month, next week, next minute.
  • brownkitty: Maybe, sometimes, a personal vocation shouldn’t be a professional ones.
  • brownkitty: Things can be replaced.
  • cypherindigo: Patience and persistence.
  • danjite: And, of course, all systems that have their basis in magical thinking are equal.
  • danjite: Live like a slightly fragile hedonist.
  • danjite: Take every meeting.
  • danjite: Walk tall, smile at everyone.
  • deborahjross: Ask for help and be ready to receive it in unexpected forms from even more unexpected sources.
  • deborahjross: Breathe. No matter what else is going on, breathe. If you can’t do anything else, breathe.
  • deborahjross: Celebrate moments of grace. Cultivate gratitude.
  • deborahjross: Crisis: the only way out is through, and if I am willing to walk through the darkness, to feel what I must feel, then I will not only survive but grow.
  • deborahjross: My experience of pain and loss can be a wellspring of compassion for the suffering of others. I am determined that good shall come of my sorrow.
  • deborahjross: Take things one day at a time. If that’s too much, one hour or even one minute at a time.
  • djelibeybi_meg: Do it now and do it hard.
  • e_bourne: Atheism
  • e_bourne: Most things don’t matter
  • e_bourne: Not all battles are worth fighting
  • elfs: Some people you just can’t reach. They are wired to be unreachable.
  • elfs: The reward for taking the high road exists. It’s just much smaller than promised.
  • la_marquise_de_: An iron sense of duty will do its best to kill you.
  • madrobins: That staying calm in a crisis is key…and that falling apart afterward is inevitable (and permissible).
  • marydell: From the available paths, choose the one you’re willing to walk, but once you’re on it, don’t try to control where it goes.
  • marydell: Living the emotional truth of a relationship is more important that living the relationship that’s written on paper.
  • melissajm: Also that I have the world’s greatest family, and the world’s greatest husband.
  • melissajm: And the world’s full of small but important kindnesses.
  • melissajm: I learned that I’m hard to kill. 😉
  • mikandra: A family upheaval has taught me that something you thought was secure can suddenly fall apart completely and utterly and without prior notice or chance of repair. In other words: that you need to be appreciative of what you have at this very moment.
  • mikandra: Life in general has taught me that all the superlatives in the world cannot overrate financial security.
  • mikandra: The too-early death of my father taught me that if you have a plan to do something, stop talking about it and do it, right now.
  • mikigarrison: Financial stress makes almost all crises harder to deal with, and crises increase the odds of financial stress. If I’d realized this 20 ago the degree to which I do now, I would have made very different choices.
  • mikigarrison: It can be really hard not to smack people who feel the need to tell you how “lucky” you are to be coping so well, or surviving this crisis, etc. It’s not luck, it’s damned hard work. In some cases it’s damned hard work now, and in some cases it’s the damned hard work I put in earlier to give myself a cushion and flexibility for crises.
  • mikigarrison: Letting myself have a “lazy” day with no expectations can be an incredibly important thing.
  • mikigarrison: That the people I enjoy doing fun things with are not always people I can count on when I need them — and the harder lesson here is that this is ok. A friend does not need to be able to meet all my various needs to still be a good friend.
  • mikigarrison: That what is really, truly most important to me in life is sometimes different than what I’d always assumed — when you start having to tightly ration energy and caring, your choices can tell you a lot about yourself. I’ve tried to carry that lesson over to my non-crisis life, but it’s something I have to be on top of on a regular basis — it’s far too easy for me to get sucked into spending too much of my time on what I *think* should be important to me rather than on what really is.
  • mmegaera: That I can handle a divorce, a cross-country move alone, a new job in a place where I know no one, and my father’s death in the space of a month, which while hell at the time did wonders for my self-confidence in the long run.
  • scarlettina: And, for better or worse, the sun always comes up tomorrow.
  • scarlettina: God (or Providence or Osiris or Luck…or Loki) helps those who help themselves. But he always waits for you to go first.
  • scarlettina: We always underestimate the willingness of those around us to help when things go south.
  • scarlettina: We are all far stronger than we realize. We may not like the necessity of manifesting that strength, but we are and we can.
  • shannagermain: Gratitude, gratitude, gratitude.
  • shannagermain: That I am a lion. And a mouse. And a heart, and a laugh and a sigh and an ache. That I am human. That we all are.
  • shannagermain: That it’s better not to be alone.
  • shannagermain: That it’s okay to be alone through crisis.
  • shannagermain: That this just might be as good as it gets.
  • shannagermain: That this too shall pass.
  • shannagermain: That you are your own best advocate, but the strong shoulders of those who love you are there for a reason.
  • shelly_rae: Take opportunities–you may not be able to later. Or is that Priorities? A small difference perhaps…
  • snippy: I am alone, and no one will ever help me.

    But that’s okay, because I am amazing and can do it by myself.

  • snippy: Nobody is looking out for my interests but me…just as well, because I’m better at it than anyone else.
  • snippy: Whatever I am doing is the most fun to be had, largely because I am doing it and I am fun.
  • therinth: Make room for people to have second chances.
  • torreybird: When I lost the Pearl of Great Price down the Great Sewer of Circumstance, I destroyed myself with worry: Did I stumble? Should I have destroyed the Pearl with piercing, and thereby secure it?

    I learned I should quit feeling guilty about circumstances beyond my control, and instead examine my motivations, my decisions, my actions – and learn the lessons available.

    Sometimes, the lesson is only that the Sewer stinks.

  • wlotus: Agnosticism, for starters. Years of believing in (or trying to, anyway) and worshiping a divinity did NOT help me get through the trials I have encountered in life, so far.
  • wlotus: I learned to appreciate the good moments when they happen, and to strive to do so without looking over my shoulder to see what is coming next.
  • wyld_dandelyon: I think the first thing I’ve learned is something I believe you are aware of–that you don’t have to have a big-D Disease, one that everyone recognizes is life threatening and life changing, to have your sleep and memory, your productivity and enjoyment of life stolen away, sometimes slowly enough that you don’t realize what you’ve lost.

    Maybe that’s the hardest–when it creeps up so slowly you don’t realize that you’ve lost capacity, even while you’re crippled by it.

    And it’s humbling when you find out something you can do–or not do–that helps you recover some of that capacity, pretty much by accident!

[links] Link salad avoids all-night walk-in dentistry

Reminder: I cannot respond to LJ comments right now, but will do so once I am back in the United States.

A reader reacts to METAtropolis, and specifically to “In the Forests of the Night”

draws authors he loves to read

Battlestar Sumpsonica — Um. Wow.

Sonoma XPBad Astronomy Blog on the reality behind the Windows XP screen. I always thought it looked like the Teletubbies set, myself.

Universe May Not Be “Fine-Tuned” for Life — Interesting stuff on the anthropic principle.

Alien para-tetrapods of Snaiad — Speculative zoology on the hoof, so to speak.

Mail hoarding — Wow.

India seeks rupee status symbol — Interesting discussion of the problems of introducing a new symbol to typography.

?otD: Where does it hurt?

Body movement: urban walking all day
This morning’s weigh-in: n/a (traveling)
Currently reading: The Confidence-Man: His Masquerade by Herman Melville; The Solitudes by John Crowley

[links] Link salad flies to Nanchang

Reminder: I cannot respond to LJ comments right now, but will do so once I am back in the United States.

with a very nice Booklist review of The Best of Abyss & Apex, v.1

sends a link to a robot that will make you die of teh cute

Ninja suit helps one-flipper turtle swim — (Thanks to .)

Paul Gilster of Centauri Dreams writes to say that the brown dwarf post I referenced yesterday has been amended to correct some errors-of-calculation — As Paul said in his email to me, “Dr. Iorio made a serious calculation error and a brown dwarf or red dwarf is now feasible much closer than he originally stated.” Win for science in the blogosphere. And thanks, Paul.

Speeding up financial analysisTechnology Review on stream computing.

?otD: How high?

Body movement: urban walking all day
This morning’s weigh-in: n/a (traveling)
Currently reading: The Confidence-Man: His Masquerade by Herman Melville; The Solitudes by John Crowley

[links] Link salad for a chilly hump day

Starship Sofa with, among many other good things, a podcast of my flash piece “A Conspiracy of Dentists”

The Fix reviews The Best of Abyss & Apex

Amazon Aims at Content Delivery — Interesting future state stuff.

APOD with a photo of the smiling heavens

Polar opposites — Some coverage of the possibly imminent (in geological terms) flipping of the Earth’s magnetic field. (Thanks to lt260.)

And for LJ readers, because flist display of my posts continues intermittently borked, something which I’m told wasn’t visible to everyone the first time:

The writing career meme

If you’ve missed recent link salads, believe me, they’ve been there. Try this.

?otD: I want to know, have you ever seen the rain?

Body movement: 30 minutes on stationary bike
This morning’s weigh-in: 223.2
Currently reading: The Confidence-Man: His Masquerade by Herman Melville

[personal] Miscellaeous updatery

I’ll post a report about yesterday’s signing later, I’m running very behind this morning. In brief, good travel, good socializing, good book-ness. Working today, then in town for dinner with some Seattle peeps. Can someone send me the directions to tonight’s Clarion West party?

Also, I haven’t forgotten the Steampunk Abecedary. I just need a catch up day or two before I can deal with that. I’m also on two important revision deadlines between now and the end of the month, and heading off to LaunchPad. So, um, probably not a lot of blogging for the next few days.

In case you missed it, open question thread here: [ | LiveJournal ].

[links] Link salad says TGIF

Schools Struggle With Dark Writings — Wow, this article is disturbing on a number of levels. If my mental health was being judged based on my fiction, they’d never let me out. It happened to me once, that I wrote a story which scared an instructor so much I was blackballed from a program. You might know that little piece as “The Goat Cutter.” (Thanks to willyumtx.)

In which I ask for your opinion on my greatest hits

Another Internet doppelganger surfaces — It’s amazing how I get around.

Thai Ladyboy Test — I scored a 90%. I think that’s good. (Thanks to willyumtx.)

Baby Supernova ID’d in Milky Way — They’re so cuuuute.

BMW GINA — A fabric-skinned automobile. Which is oddly reminiscent of BMW’s original business line, building engines for WWI era fabric-skinned aircraft. (Thanks to sheelangig.)

Photo of a frilled shark — Fascinating but sad story attached.

54 sickened at hospital after farmer’s chemical-fuelled vomit generates toxic gas — That’s like something out of cyberpunk. (Thanks to willyumtx.)

Right Wing Bloggers Employ Investigative Journalism “Skills” to Skim Documentsnomissnewo has some fun at the expense of people who are far too easy to make fun of. Couldn’t happen to a nicer bunch, either.

Ex-Clark Co. GOP chief admits performing oral sex on a sleeping man — As the story notes, the perp was also chairman of the Young Republican National Federation. This is why gay marriage must be opposed at all costs! Because Republicans just can’t control themselves without a Constitutional amendment! Mmm, family values.

Time in saddle: 0 minutes (still recovering from surgery)
Last night’s weigh-out: n/a
This morning’s weigh-in: 262.2
Currently reading: The Alchemy of Stone by Ekaterina Sedia Amazon ]

[personal] Greatest hits?

Stealing a page from arcaedia, I have a question primarily directed at long-time readers of this blog. (Or anyone who understands my tagging system, I suppose.)

It’s almost the fourth anniversary of this blog in its current form (ignoring my recent switch to WordPress with an LJ echo). First post is here, from July 14th, 2004. I’ve made 5,810 posts since then, offered 12,093 comments and had 41,476 made to me.

In all that time, what are your favorite posts? I’m mostly thinking about writing process, but it might be polls, travelogs, kid-related, whatever? If I were to put together a list of 15-20 “greatest hits” links, what would it look like?

Bonus question: who should I be reading that I’m not?